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Why Women Need To Stop Dating Ungodly Men
How many of you all think it is important for a man to be rooted in the Bible in order to be counted as a worthy man? How many of you all believe that in order for a man to be a proper head he has to first establish a strong relationship with the Lord? Do you think that a foundation built upon the Most High is optional or a requirement to be a proper head?
A Relationship Without the Lord Is A Relationship Built on Quicksand
Too many times have I seen women get in relationships with men who have no establishment with the Lord whatsoever. To my amazement, women are surprised that the relationship ended up going to nought. Any relationship that is not founded upon the Most High is a relationship founded upon unstable waters. Everything will be like a ship in a monstrous thunderstorm going to and fro from one direction to the next with nothing guiding the relationship down the right path. Without the Lord, a relationship is founded on quick stand, and it is only a matter of time before everything sinks.
Also, a man who is not guided by the Bible is a man disconnected from the Lord. How can you feel comfortable being lead by a man who is separated from the Most High? How do you feel comfortable as a follower of Christ to be lead by a head who is severed from the rest of the body? If you were to submit to this man and follow his lead, how do you trust his judgement? In reality, you cannot.
Ungodly Men Will Lead You To Destruction
In addition, a man who does not believe in the Lord is walking down a path straight to fire. By you submitting to that man, you are going to be following his path right to destruction. You can perhaps try to correct him if you see him going the wrong direction, but what do you bring up to correct him? He does not believe in the Bible, so what do you say? You can quote scriptures, but all that is going to do is create conflict in the relationship. He is going to tell you, “I don’t believe in that. Can you stop talking to me about that.” Maybe you can use quotes and references outside the Bible to avoid angering him. Maybe you can state African proverbs or Buddhist sayings, but now you are rearranging your own belief systems to align with him.
As a result, you are leaning onto the beliefs and understanding of carnal men rather than the Lord in an attempt to correct your man all while desperately trying to keep peace in the relationship. In consequence, your spirit is corrupting from the pressure to please and follow the lead of an ungodly man. This is why relationships with the unrighteous leads to nothing but confusion. The Lord is not the author of confusion. This is exactly why the relationship will eventually self-destruct.
Start Paying Attention Men’s Spirit
Moreover, how can you expect a man who has no foundation in the Lord to provide a relationship with stability? Why is it that many women value physical characteristics such as his physical looks or monetary status before his spiritual standing with the Lord. Why is it that women will make excuses for men who clearly do not show any interest in establishing a connection with the Lord and then get in long-term relationships and marriages with them?
Sweet Compliments Does Not Mean A Sweet Spirit
Furthermore, a man will compliment a woman calling them “queen” or “princess,” and the woman is immediately ready to date him. A spiritual man will not tell you everything that you want to hear. He might compliment you here and there. He might tell you that you are beautiful and that you look nice, but that is when it is necessary. Above all, he will lay it down to you what you are doing wrong and the corrections that you need to make. This is because he actually cares about you. He does not value pleasing you over ensuring that you obtain salvation.
However, many men who do not fear the Lord also do not care about your spiritual standing. As a result, they will keep telling you everything that you want to hear until they have used you for whatever they wanted. Then they are off to the next. Women need to pause ask proper questions before dating a man in order to establish where each other are on their spiritual journey. There is nothing wrong with helping a man on their path to the Lord. However, if he does not show true effort to improve, then he is not fit for marriage.
Above all, for anyting can you evolve to dating, courting, and eventually marriage, your spiritual path with the Lord needs to be on the same page with your partner. Nothing good comes from being unequally yoked with your other half. Salvation is not something to play with. If your emphasis on following the Lord puts off a man, then that should be a greater red flag than anything anyone has put on Instagram and Twitter.
Stop Looking At The Potential In Men And Start Looking At The Reality
Ultimately, women have a terrible habit of seeing deeper into men than men see in themselves. Oftentimes, women believe that men have a greater potential than men might even believe they themselves are able to achieve. There is nothing wrong with wanting to encourage a man to do better. There is nothing wrong with seeing a higher potential in a man and trying to help him to bring it out. However, the issue is when you so wholeheartedly believe in this potential that you are willing to put yourself in an imaginary reality that things will improve when a man has not actively acted to make proper changes. Women will get in a relationship with a man for the potential, for the idea that they will change or improve. Most women do not sit down and analyze all of what a man has shown them. They do not make proper judgements from that data. They make judgements from what they envision.
Additionally, a lot of the time, women fall in love with a fictional version of their man. Women sell themselves a false reality founded on the idea that their men will make these changes in the future, so they stick by their side. However, truly, their men have shown absolutely no interest whatsoever in fixing or changing those aspects about them. As a result, women will waste their time in sinking relationships because they have convinced themselves that they have a better man than they actually have. This, more than likely, could have been avoided if the principle requirement for enter and maintaining the relationship was following the Most High.
The Lord is Always First And That Includes Relationships
In the end, the Lord needs to be first in everything you do. Relationships are not excluded from this fact. A relationship has a much higher chance of success if both parties are on one accord with the Lord. Variances in success rates are predicated upon how closely each party is adhering to the commandments. Therefore, it is in the relationship’s favor to have the Lord at its core.
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